Apr 16

She’s Still A Queen

I go to Starbucks often to work and I always see the same woman every time I’m there. I’ve never spoken to her outside of saying, “Hello.” She is always smiling and she stays to herself. For some reason, I was drawn to sit next to her one day. I decided to talk to her, mainly because I wanted to know why she was in Starbucks like me. I assumed that she owned a business or something and I wanted to know more about it.

To my surprise, I got way more than I expected. This woman’s story is so amazing and very encouraging. I knew that crossing her path was not a coincidence. I won’t share all of her story here, but I will give you a synopsis. She is an entrepreneur that has recently lost her job and home. She is a single parent and her family resources here in Houston are limited and not always amicable. Her friend resources are also limited, because she lost a lot of friends when she lost her house and her job. She works very hard every day to earn money because she has to provide a place so she and her children can eat, sleep, and bathe. She often gets motel rooms; the cheapest room runs about $50 per day and if she can’t provide it, they sleep in the car.

I asked her why she wouldn’t go to a shelter. She said that she went to one local shelter when she was on the verge of losing her home. The shelter would not accept her and her children. It was such a difficult and humbling experience that she can’t compel herself to ask anyone else for help. To top it off her family wouldn’t allow her to live them for a while. She said that she that it’s very hard especially going through this with her children watching. She said that her children are strong and they support her. The strangest thing is that they are happy. She firmly stated, while keeping that smile on her face that she wasn’t going to worry much, because she was brought on this journey for a reason.

There’s so much more to this story and it’s absolutely unbelievable, because this woman has a very troubled past. She has so much strength and perseverance that she is definitely destined to do great things. She is not someone I would have envisioned as being homeless, jobless, and without steady income. But, what face would you give homelessness and unemployment?
We really need to stop complaining.

Shes still a queen



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  1. Tonya B.

    @ Anonymous who signed with your alias- I sure did buy her coffee…on more than one occasion, in fact.

  2. Kay

    She is the face of what is becoming the new homeless. Former business owners forced out of business, estranged from family and holding on to their dignity. I appreciate you sharing this story. It reminds me that I need to check in with the people who are important to me more often, just to be sure they are ok. I myself might be in the same condition if something like a lay-off knocked the wind out of me….hard to pay a mortgage without a paycheck…would my family be there for me. I want to say yes but in these times where the focus is on “ME” can any of us be sure.

    I love that through it all, this woman has held on to her dignity and presents herself as a lady….to such an extent that she drew you in. Bless her.

  3. JustTonyaB

    Kay, you are right on point. Everyone should always check in with those important to them because you never know what’s going on. Even if there’s nothing going on at all, it’s always good to know that someone cares enough to think about you.

    She is actually doing much better now.

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