Sep 04

Ponderings of an Empty Nester

empty nest

I’m not sure how I thought it would be, but I seriously did not think about parenting my children post high school. My daughters are all adults – one has graduated college and the younger two are in their sophomore and junior years. Apparently, I only had visions of grandeur. I truly thought they would leave home and I would get on my private jet to Turks and Caicos…never to parent again. *needle on the record scratches*

Now that I’m back to realistic thinking, because it surely didn’t work out as I envisioned, I often wonder if I’m equipped to parent three adult young women. This is totally different and parenting adults is a lot more difficult. Do I miss getting up in the mornings, worrying about school clothes, lunches, recitals, field trips, or that ONE psycho teacher? Nope! Do I enjoy panicking each time the phone rings at random hours for no darn reason now? Nope! I went from one scary parenting dimension into a scarier parenting dimension. They don’t necessarily “need” me anymore and I’m trying to figure out how to stay relevant in their lives. It’s difficult for me to maintain a feeling a relevancy when I don’t see them every day. At the same time, I’m trying to figure out how to keep their visits under 72 hours. Just kidding…kind of. They’ve flown the coop and this empty nest thing just isn’t working out the way I’d planned. I do know the greatest part will be building that adult relationship with them. Despite what others have said, including me, having your own life and own things to do, does not take away the pangs of the empty nest syndrome.

Oh the dilemma.

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