Jul 30

Don’t Bring Dead Weight To Life

dead weightdead weight or dead·weight (děd’wāt’) n.
1. The unrelieved weight of a heavy, motionless mass.
2. An oppressive burden or difficulty. Abbr. DW The fixed weight of a structure or piece of equipment, such as a bridge on its supports. Also called dead load.
dead weight. (n.d.). The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition.

This can be a deep definition when you apply the term “dead weight” to people. How much dead weight do you have in your life?

I used to love getting helium balloons from my parents, but they’d never tie the darn thing on good enough. I would cry so bad as I watched my balloon float to the sky. As I aged, I developed a fascination with seeing balloons float away free. I’ll keep looking straight into the sun trying to see how far that balloon would go. Sometimes, I wish I could be that balloon, I wish I could just float away free.

As a child, I attached myself to things and people for security, because I didn’t know of any other way to feel secure. As an adult, I’ve learned to be secure in who I am and what I have to offer. Quite frankly, I’m still learning.

If you want to succeed at anything, you will need to release the people that are holding you back. If you stay connected to unproductive people then you will become just that…unproductive! The adage says, “Birds of a feather flock together.” You will have to rid yourself of the motionless masses, the oppressive burdens, and the fixed weight. If you tie yourself to an anchor, then where can you go? How can you move on or upward?

Free yourself!!

“No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow.”
– Alice Walker


  1. LMKIA (Little Ms. Know It All)

    Yes, free yourself of the dead weight. In the same manner, you should surround yourself with like-minded, positive influences. Friends are your support, encouragement, and reprieve. Women especially need to develop healthy friendships instead of getting caught up with jealously, competition, and projected fear.

  2. Tonya B.

    lmkia, you are right and thanks for bringing that point home. Friends are those that you enjoy being around, those that engage and inspire you.

    We as women absolutely must make better efforts to build healthy friendships with other women.

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