Mar 27

A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Rest of My Life (Updated 3/30/17)


3 months ago, I realized that on this day last year, I wrote these words: “I do know that I want to be in a relationship with someone that can accept my love and reciprocate in some way…” Apparently, on this day last year, God said, “Finally, she admitted it!” I was completely fed up with being in relationships with no growth and spending time that wouldn’t amount to anything. I was 40 years old at the time, I don’t have that kind of time to be playing with folks. I’m a firm believer in your thoughts become things (The Law of Attraction). You will what you want and you get what you will…pray for. Anytime that you are ready for something that is already in your destiny, you’ll get it. So, I went on about my day…work, networking event, then a lounge to hang out for a bit. Nearly 12 hours after I typed those words, I met him and my life hasn’t been the same since that day. The strangest thing is that I didn’t even like him at first. Go figure!

Update (March 30, 2017): Guess what? It didn’t work.  I could have easily deleted this blog, but I decided to just add to the story. Now that I’m over the breakup I can say without fail that I don’t fully know why it didn’t work. I know I didn’t walk away when I should have and he eventually walked away after giving up with these words, “I have nothing to give a relationship.” I kind of wish we both would have acknowledged that sooner than two and half years down the road. That statement was true in so many regards, but I continued to accept less than I deserved.  I do accept the fact that I needed to know that I could actually love someone. I did not believe that I would ever have those feelings, so I’m extremely thankful for that.

Five months later, I finally accept it. I understand that I needed support through a rough patch in my life. I accept the fact that I needed to know that I could actually love someone. I did not believe that I would ever have those feelings, so I’m extremely thankful for the journey.  I have learned that love is not enough. I’m not sure if I’ll ever talk/blog about it in detail. I just have to let bygones be bygones and let it go. It is so easy to say F it all, but I am blessed in knowing that I was being primed for something to greater.

“He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.” ― Bob Marley


  1. Carolyn Devaughn

    My, my, my!!!

  2. Brian Banks

    So full of truth and real self awarenes.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

You may use these HTML tags and attributes: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <s> <strike> <strong>